The Internet is ‘Real Life’
When people speak face-to-face, they can use social cues to understand each other, like changing their tone of voice or facial expressions. When people interact with each other online, these cues can sometimes be missing, which can lead to feelings of anxiety or hurt when people misunderstand each other.
This is why everyone - and young people especially - sometimes need guidance navigating the complicated world of interaction they find online. Parents can help their teens develop the skills they need to have good outcomes when they use the internet or social media. They can also help them develop a sense of resilience - so that they’re able to move past negative interactions, when they do (maybe inevitably) happen.
Above all, keep an open dialog with your teens. They need to know they can come to you and ask for help. And when they do, there are a lot of ways you can help. It starts by listening, and goes from there to: helping them understand context.
Online Interactions and Building Resilience
By keeping the lines of dialog open, you can help your teen understand that, online or offline, the golden rule still applies: treat people how you would like to be treated.
Whether you talk to someone or DM them, write them a letter or post a comment on their page, the emotional stakes are often the same. You can make someone’s day with a nice comment, or hurt their feelings with an insult.
Parents have a special responsibility here. If your teen is having a negative or heated interaction online, you can help them by staying informed about what happened, and helping them find a way forward. Learn what you can about their experience, validate their feelings and see if they’d like to talk through a response that could lead to a good outcome.
All this is part of learning the skill of resilience – the ability to bounce back from bad things when they
Keep the conversation going
Helping teens and young people cultivate positive interactions online can be a long process that can involve a lot of conversation over a period of time. If you need some conversation-starters, bring up topics like:
- I love you and sometimes I worry about what you have to deal with online. Can we talk about ways to help you respond?
- Walk me through a recent interaction you had online.
- When did you feel upset and why?
- It’s ok to feel sad when sad things happen, it’s ok to feel bad when bad things happen. How can we change the way we use the internet and social media to make things better the next time?
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